I am engaged! And now what?
Hello and welcome back!
I hope you enjoyed the first post but now that we are done with the introductions, I think it is time for us to dive into the magical world of weddings!!
One of the reasons why I decided to start this blog and this journey is because I know how you are feeling in this moment: your fiancé proposed and you said yes / you decided together to get married and you find yourself super excited. You can’t wait to plan everything and you are constantly on Pinterest and Instagram looking at wedding inspirations. You are telling everyone the great news, showing the ring and reliving the proposal.
But the moment you stop to think rationally, there is only one question in your head: Where do I start from? How do I do this?
Don’t worry baby, I got you!
When you start the planning process there are essentially two paths that you can follow:
- Plan the wedding yourself (maybe with the help of family and friends)
- Hire a wedding planner
I can’t tell you which one is the right path (even though I AM a wedding planner) because everyone has different circumstances and possibilities in their life and only you know what is best for you.
But today I want to focus on the reasons why you should hire a professional for help!
1) First of all, like every other professional, it is their job! It is the same concept as a plumber. You can try and fix your sink alone, and you can probably do something, but if you call a plumber, he knows exactly what the problem is and how to fix it professionally because that’s his job! The same principle works for wedding planners. There is a lot of work behind the role of the wedding planner. You don’t just wake up one day and decide you are one! You need to do courses and trainings, collaborate with other wedding professionals to gain experience, always be updated on the latest trends...and much more!
A wedding planner knows exactly what to do, where to start from, what is important and what is not.
2) Another big part of being a wedding planner is networking! Yes, it is true that nowadays you can simply go on google and find anything you are looking for. But how do you know if that florist is charging you the right price, or if that venue is including everything you need in their quote. A wedding planner knows! It is part of the job to always research and meet new suppliers, to collaborate in different projects and to create a bond, a connection, almost a friendship with the people in the industry. That is the only way you can know if the suppliers are honest and trustworthy.
3) They have done it before! We tent to say “you only get married once!”. Most of the time it is true, in some cases you get married twice or three times. Well, a wedding planner gets married 10 or 20 times in a year, sometimes more! Yes, she is not the bride and she is not getting all the attentions, but she is there! From the first consultation till the last candle is blown off, she is there, every single time! She is there when you are not sure what colour your napkins should be or when your mum think your dress is too modern and not traditional, she is there when the hairdresser is late on your big day and you are freaking out, she is there when your cousin decides to become vegan the day before your wedding and she is there when uncle Richard is too drunk to stand. She is there for you, no matter how big or small the problem is! Yes it is you wedding day and you are the bride and you get all the attentions, but behind the scenes, it is her wedding too! They are all her weddings from the first to the last.
I don’t know if I managed to convince you with this post, but if not, do not worry. Just come back next month for the real deal, when we talk about real planning!
Till next time...
Love,
Ilaria x
P.S. I feel like I have to make something clear. I have been referring to the wedding planner figure as a “she”. I do not want to discriminate male wedding planner, they are just as amazing as the female one. It is mainly because the majority of WP in the business are female, that’s all. I apologise in advance if I offended anyone. It was not my intention.